As we come to the end of 2015 my Facebook newsfeed is full of “Joe’s year in review” and “Mary Sue’s top three pictures of 2015”, everyone is reflecting on the events and changes of 2015 on some level or another. Soon everyone will start sharing their top resolutions, there will be a rash of getting in shape, or better organized posts all over our feeds. Some years I have done the same but the last couple of years I resolved to not make any resolutions and I think it was the best kept one yet.
I got sick of making these grand, or even simple, resolutions for the new year, bold statements about how this year would be my year, and then everything would fizzle. Or unexpected events would happen. Or, you know, I’d forget. I got so sick of it so for a couple years I refused, flat out refused, to make any resolutions. What is the point I know I won’t actually do it. I’d think in my head while reading others’ conversations about their new goals, their successes their failures. That familiar keep up with the Jones’s and the jealousy of watching other people’s social media perfect lives would creep up and I’d just be generally disgruntled about starting another new year. Basically I was being a perfect Negative Nancy.
I had already decided that this year I wanted to make one or two realistic, measurable, achievable goals for myself to work towards in 2016. Maybe a few peripheral ones too that could be like bonus points. You know that extra credit that without you wouldn’t have passed your exam. The silly fun stuff, like maybe finally finishing my husband’s Doctor Who scarf I started knitting well over a year ago…
I know I want this year to be about me. Laughable or maybe even selfish, I know. Yet a little self-care can go a long way. I’ve been hearing it a lot this year and seeing it brighten other peoples’ lives enough that I think I should maybe give it a shot. Give me a shot. I want to take better care of myself, not spoil myself, just develop a routine that involves me taking a little time to take proper care of myself, even if it’s just washing and moisturizing my face twice a day. Ideally though I’d like to incorporate more physical activity in my life and some better eating by planning meals for the family better. By taking care of me and not running myself ragged I want to be able to be a better, more attentive, more patient wife and mother.
I suppose to sum it up I want to improve my family’s quality of life by investing time in improving myself, my routine and the habits of my family. I’m not setting anything with a measurable point of completion. The things I want to accomplish will take time and tinkering with. I’ll know I am succeeding by the fact that I am trying. Each little change I am able to make and have stick is another accomplishment, another goal met. My resolution is progress in a positive direction.
Actually, the only measurable resolution I can think of is to be more mindful of our spending and to say on top of the budget better. I start every year really strong but as we meet our financial goals and the holidays roll around again I let too much slack in and then the end of year becomes financially painful. I cannot let the holidays own my checkbook anymore, there is so much more we could be doing with our money and I’m going to make sure we remember that all through the year.
So farewell and so long 2015, its been up and down. We accomplished a big dream and that we can continue to grow with even though it was a tough, stressful year. It was good, I’m not sad to see you go though. It is time to move forward, stay positive (in more ways than one right!?) and embrace 2016 and all that it may offer us.
Do you make New Year’s resolutions?